Structure or Not?

by Jeannette Webb on May 14, 2012

 

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Structure or Not?

By Jeannette Webb

Not too long ago I spent the day with my husband, a construction manager/salesman, jack-of-all-trades kind of a guy.  Our mission was to secure a building permit for his newest commercial building located in a new industrial park in our state’s capitol city.  We were sent from building to building, up and down floors, office to office.   As we stood in yet another line, we felt the tension rise among the others caught in the frustrating press of bureaucracy.  One woman had made the two-hour trip to this particular office on four different occasions and was told something different each time.

I realize that most people live out their lives in this maze, but it came as quite a shock to me.  Living as we do, miles away from humanity, surrounded by land owned by our family for generations, we can pretty much do whatever we please.  Need more light?  I would point and my husband would run a new electrical line.  Need a window?  My husband actually took a chain saw and cut a hole in the wall.  Need more space for a growing family?  We would stake out the footing, build the forms and pour the concrete.  

In every instance, we quickly assessed the situation, made a decision, and moved forward.  We had the freedom to do this because of who we are and the choices we have made.  We chose to live in the country, far away from zoning ordinances. Over the years we have developed the needed skills to be able to build the life we want.  We learned to trust our gut in shaping our environment.

In many ways, the freedom we chose for living was the freedom we chose for our kid’s education.  Our school was the polar opposite of unschooling, but our days were flexible.  We could stop and meet a friend’s need or take advantage of a beautiful day to go explore the creek behind our house.  Year-round flexible school was just a way of life, so getting math done after an interruption fit with our mindset.  During a financial crisis when the kids worked away from home two days a week, school fit in around the cracks on evenings and weekends.  When one of my children would develop a consuming passion about a particular area of science or history, I erased by teacher plan and jumped into their joy with them.

In contrast, there are many educational choices that require bureaucratic permits and the resulting rigidity.  When we pay someone else to take responsibility, we immediately give up choices and the freedom to follow our instincts.  Our child may be at home, but another entity controls when class is held, when papers are due, what they need to learn.  We must ask someone else’s permission for every move we make.  Some programs (including gifted programs) insist on a certain sequence of classes – no deviation, no speeding up or slowing down.  Many umbrella or charter schools leave no room for individual needs, giftings or fleeting opportunities.

I will grant that as kids get into the high schools years, the types of classes needed are more demanding and less flexible.  We need a few AP classes in the mix.  I usually recommend 4-6.  It can be nice to have a community college class or two. However, my family refused to give up all our freedom.  We were willing to be structured in my children’s area of interest – math and science, but we kept the spontaneity alive in our history and English classes.  

There is nothing wrong with a structured education, but the choice to hold on to  flexibility can yield rich dividends and produce lifelong learners!

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Our daughter was accepted at every university to which she applied, received substantial scholarship awards, and was then free to choose the best possible option.  What we appreciated most was the way Jeanette took the time to really learn about our daughter and our family.  We felt that this wasn’t just a mechanical process for Jeanette, but a true ministry of helping homeschool parents navigate the process of getting our students off on the next phase of their educational journey.  We couldn’t be more pleased by the experience, and would recommend Jeannette to any family." ~ Sonja, WA

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Do What You Are

by Jeannette Webb on May 7, 2012

 

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Do What You Are
By Jeannette Webb
 
I couldn’t have chosen a more imperfect career fit. Neither could my husband. I border on extreme introversion. He is an off-the-charts extrovert. My career fresh out of college involved tons of people, constant interruptions, lots of travel, and everything else an introvert could hate. My people-loving new husband was a farmer. He spent all day every day alone in a tractor cab or working among cattle that only communicated by mooing. I would come home at night ready to cocoon after the onslaught of the day. He would be gearing up and ready to go do something with people.  The clash of needs was intense; however, at the time we really didn’t understand what was happening.

Here’s the interesting thing. We were both very good at what we did.  His innovative farming practices were featured in the top farm magazine in the nation. My groundbreaking programs received awards at professional meetings. We were expertly doing what we were trained to do and everyone was applauding. Why were we so miserable with our choice of profession?

Several years into this mess, I discovered the Myers-Briggs personality assessment and things began to finally make sense. The heart of our unhappiness was the fact that we didn’t understand how God had hard-wired our individual personalities. As such, we had basically chosen career paths that violated who we were at the core of our being. While we were successful, the emotional price we paid was entirely too high.

Fascinated with this tidbit of knowledge, I began to try to understand the different personalities and what that meant for career choice. Because I had lived through the pain of unwise choices, I was determined that my children would not make the same mistake. As they grew and I continued to study, I discovered a book that has been foundational for my kids, for many of my clients, and for my young friends as they have contemplated what they want to do with their life.

Do What You Are: Discover the Perfect Career for You Through the Secrets of Personality Type by Paul D. Tieger and Barbara Barron-Tieger is a groundbreaking, easy to understand look at all the personality types. Each personality type has its own chapter with the following categories:

  • profiles of real people in real jobs and why that career works
  • common threads found between these profiled
  • career satisfaction means doing work that . . .
  • popular occupations for each personality type in the fields of: counseling, education, religion, creative, health care, social services, business, computers/technology, finance, professional, academic, sales, service, clerical, etc.
  •  customizing the job search
  • pathways to success using your strengths
  • possible pitfalls
  • advice on keeping or changing your job

This kind of self-awareness in budding teens can help channel their skill development, give them ideas for the kinds of professionals or tradesmen to job shadow, help them know where to focus their research of careers, pick the colleges or apprenticeships that specialize in training for those particular careers, and ultimately move into a world of work that validates who they are and allows them the best chance of being successful both emotionally and professionally.

Check out Do What You Are in our List of Resources.

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Moving Towards Autonomy

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Unstructured Time vs. Wasted Time

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  Unstructured Time vs. Wasted Time By Jeannette Webb There is a big difference between wasted time and unstructured time.  As I look back over the 22 years that children graced my home, I can honestly say there was hardly ever any wasted time, yet my children were rich in unstructured time.  What’s the difference? [...]

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