Leave Room for Delight

Farmer's hand watering a young plant in sunshine

Delight is a fragile thing. Like a tiny plant pushing up through the earthy crust, it needs space and light and nourishment. Crowd it, cover it up, or fail to water it and it dies. Busyness is the enemy of delight. A too-full schedule has the same effect that we see when weeds choke out  [read more] …

Shrink Their Impossible!

Confident handsome smiling asian young man in glasses standing in cafe with arms crossed

Helping children push past their own preconceived barriers has been part of my job description for a long time, but my art teacher recently gave me a fabulous visual of this vitally important concept. He drew a horizontal line on the board with a vertical dividing line one fourth of the way in from the  [read more] …

Noted But Not Nurtured

Mother With Teenage Son Sitting On Sofa At Home Using Laptop

I had an interesting conversation the other day with my friend, Jen. We were discussing the fact that, in our generation, many kids knew their parents loved them, were happy for their pursuits, and yet did little beyond observing what each child was becoming. She nailed it when she stated, “My interests were noted, but  [read more] …

Choose a Life, Not a Checklist

Teenage Girl Doing Shopping For Elderly Neighbour

I don’t believe that years ago colleges foresaw the negative implications of an application process that appears to focus on superhuman achievement. It can almost seem that AP classes need to start in grade school and that the kid should cure cancer before starting college applications. Thus, the agenda of things kids think they need  [read more] …

A New Definition of Better

Pretty young woman making a decision with arrows and question mark above her head

I get the better than question a lot. Is it better to do A or B? Here are some examples: Is it better to take the ACT or the SAT? Is it better to participate in robotics or math competitions? Is it better to take 4 AP classes in the senior year or is it  [read more] …