The Bedrock of Self-Concept

Every person has an image of himself or herself that has been forged by experience and how they see themselves in the eyes of others. Over years, we add layer upon layer of words we use to describe ourselves and grow comfortable with our place in the scheme of things. This persona is vitally important  [read more] …

The Quality All Parents Need

Mom with her pre teen daughter hugging, positive feelings, good relations.

After working with kids for over three decades and observing good parents for even longer, I’ve come to the decision that raw intelligence of the parent is not the key factor in raising great kids. Neither is it location, opportunity, or money. They can certainly be nice additions if other important aspects are in place,  [read more] …

Letting Go

Indian mother and three children enjoying family picnic in park on sunny day

As a young mother, I often wished I could see into the future. It would have been so much easier to know ahead of time who my children would become, what path I should encourage them to take, what things would go bad. I longed for someone with experience show me a clear route to  [read more] …

Little Heroes

Little child girl plays superhero. Child on the background of sunset sky. Girl power concept

To mark our 35th anniversary on July 4th, my husband and I journeyed to Durango, CO to experience the narrow-gauge railroad that loops to Silverton. After that, we did what we normally do in a new place: we followed our noses, our way of saying that we follow any interesting road or conversation to wherever  [read more] …

Leave Room for Delight

Farmer's hand watering a young plant in sunshine

Delight is a fragile thing. Like a tiny plant pushing up through the earthy crust, it needs space and light and nourishment. Crowd it, cover it up, or fail to water it and it dies. Busyness is the enemy of delight. A too-full schedule has the same effect that we see when weeds choke out  [read more] …