Are You Raising a Watcher or a Warrior?
By Jeannette Webb
We rarely go to a movie theater, but my husband and I wanted to see the new movie “Courageous” on the big screen. It’s been a long time since I’ve laughed so hard or cried so much. The theme is Honor Begins at Home and it’s a beautiful look at what can happen when men take the responsibility (and make the sacrifice) of putting God and their families first.
I’ll be honest. Most Christian movies leave me cold. They are a heavy-handed form of legalism with no artistic merit. I’m happy to report that “Courageous” radically breaks the stereotype.
I’ve been pondering the movie’s message all last week. It is so very basic and simple and yet I know only a very few men (and I mean 2 or 3) that I can honestly say live out the honor code I saw portrayed there.
There are many Christian dads that provide well for their families – nice homes, travel, and luxuries. There are many men involved in Bible studies and who march their families off to church week by week. But you just don’t see the lay-down-your-life kind of love that is filled with sacrifice and death to one’s own desires. I feel blessed beyond measure to be married to one of those rare men.
Casting Crowns has a fabulous new release as a companion to the movie. Here are a few of the verses:
“We were made to be courageous
We were made to lead the way
We could be the generation
That finally breaks the chains
We were warriors on the front lines
But now we’re watchers on the sidelines
While our families slip away
Where are you, men of courage?
You were made for so much more
Let the pounding of our hearts cry
We will serve the lord
This is our resolution
Our answer to the call
We will love our wives and children
We refuse to let them fall
We will reignite the passion
That we buried deep inside
May the watchers become warriors
Let the men of God arise . . . . .”
Our world today is filled with watchers. Our churches are jam-packed with watchers. Our homes are occupied by watchers. That’s one of the reasons we started our company, Aiming Higher Consultants. My husband and I were called out when our children were small to raise them to be able to move in spheres of influence in their world; hence the name of our book – Called to Influence. Now I help other families who feel the same call. But that call means raising warriors and not watchers.
Here are some attributes I have noticed in teens that are warriors:
1. They have been given meaningful work to do from a young age.
2. Someone is depending on them to do that work correctly.
3. They are a contributing member of the family – sharing money, time, and talent (they serve their family).
4. Their input is sought after and taken seriously by parents.
5. They have been allowed to feel the consequences of their own choices (they weren’t protected).
6. They are passionate about something and that gives shape to their days.
7. There isn’t much free time – they are too busy doing real things in the real world.
8. They live a life that has few rules, but is rich in relationship.
9. They have lived mostly in the world of adults and not the peer-dependent world of their age-mates.
10. They are not addicted to Facebook, cell phones, or computers.
May your watchers become warriors.
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